Relationship & Marriage counselling
"Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive."
- Havelock Ellis, English writer and social reformer, 1859–1939
As a marriage guidance counsellor & relationship therapist, I will support you to change the dynamic that you are currently in. We will explore your differences and how to overcome them within a 'safety first' therapeutic model.
This is challenging work but emotionally and financially cheaper than divorce, separation and starting again.
Couples counselling offers new skills which, over time, will become the building blocks of the transformation of your relationship from how it was to how you would want it to be. Re-romanticising and re-energising the relationship are goals for marriage counselling and are achievable.
Communication, both verbal and through the body (kissing, touch, sex) are usually the first casualties when relationships are breaking down. We lose the desire to connect with our partners and begin to 'act out' our hurts through arguments, withdrawal and sometimes, infidelity. We learn to play the 'blame game' and see the other as the enemy. The 'silent' treatment, separation and sulkiness can take us back to our core childhood wounds.
Many couples have felt the devastation that comes with infidelity. Infidelity can bring up issues of trust, shame, and guilt. All can be worked with successfully IF you are willing, a level of honesty is needed to recreate trust and redevelop intimacy.
Creative play is a tool in couples counselling and fundamental to valuing each other. During couples counselling sessions we will look at your routines and add some spice to your daily diet. A healthy home/sex/ creative play life keeps couples together.
Couples seek support for varied reasons including :
In some cases, couples attend counselling sessions to have a structured ending of the relationship. They wish to navigate the transition into solo and separate lifestyles and to develop a supportive co-parenting relationship with structured boundaries if children are involved. This is all possible through communication and mediation.