Counselling, Sex therapy & Relationship therapy for Solo and Coupled clients
If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got. Is it time for change?
Psychosexual psychotherapy, Couples/ marriage guidance counselling or solo Integrative counselling will support you to evolve into the person and relationship that you have wished for. Gone will be the stress, depression and general anxiety of life, replaced by a more vibrant, empowered and authentic you.
My counselling rooms in Camden, Central London NW1 and Brighton BN1 offer an accessible, warm, fully confidential and safe environment for you to explore and process whatever is concerning you.
Previous and current clients come from diverse sexual and gendered backgrounds ( LGBTQI+). All clients are seen and treated as equal.
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Integrative counselling supports clients by weaving many therapeutic teachings into a therapeutic framework that lends itself to cater to the emotional, behavioural and cognitive shifts a client would need to expand towards a more empowered future.
Psychosexual (sex) therapy
Often we ignore nurturing our sexual and sensual selves. Re-connecting with intimacy, sexuality, sensuality and sexual energy have a multitude of scientifically qualified health benefits in reducing stress, slowing the ageing process, increasing blood flow which offsets health risks of coronaries or cancers, and developing healthier cell-structures. Combined with psychosexual education, the therapeutic package offers clients a more balanced and grounded sense of self which supports their choices whether relational, sensual or sexual.
Expanded creativity and joy are a common payoff when we learn to remodel and integrate a healthier sexual paradigm into our sensual and sexual lives.
We work towards healing sexual violations and abuses which trigger the bodies trauma responses (shut down or become hyper-aroused). These are common presentations that prevent people from fully participating in their sensual and sexual lives.
Other common presentations that can be worked through with psychosexual therapy are issues with a behavioural aspect as with erectile dysfunctions, rapid or retarded ejaculation, porn addiction/ misuse of erotic imagery/ sexual compulsivity, low or hypo libido, ano dyspareunia, vaginismus and the fear of sex. These psychosexual symptoms can be worked through so that you can come to a place of understanding of how the mind hinders the bodies needs and desires.
Couples Counselling & Marriage guidance
Transforming a relationship can feel challenging and tiresome, especially when it may feel easier to avoid issues instead of confronting them.
I support couples to work towards creating a new relational dynamic. You are the expert on your relationship, by re-building bridges and re-defining communications skills, love partners can hear each others wants and needs and help to transition into a new relationship landscape. Re-building trust and intimacy and trying out new communication skills are cornerstones of couples counselling work.
The First Session
The first session is a consultation to talk through any questions that you may have about the therapeutic pathway, the way I work and the issues that are concerning you. The session helps you to experience me and to see and feel if I am someone that you feel comfortable working with.
The number of sessions will vary depending on your needs. We will have regular check-ins on how the therapy is progressing and how you are applying the skills to achieve your goals.
Marriage guidance & couples counselling sessions begin weekly and move on to bi-weekly sessions when the focus shifts towards re-connecting, re-energising and re-romanticising the relationship. Fortnightly sessions pave the way for couples to explore sensate and holistic-based home exercises with the goal to rebuild and re-ignite desire.
Sessions are held in Mornington crescent, Central London, NW1.
My therapy rooms are close to the main travel hubs of Kings Cross station, St. Pancras International station, Euston station, Mornington Crescent tube and Camden town tube and are easily within walking distance of Regents Park, Camden Lock, Harley Street, St. Johns Wood, Belsize Park and Central London.
And Sandgate road BN1 Brighton and is served by Preston Park train station BN1, London road train station and Brighton central mainline station.
Why Choose Me ?
Clients that I have worked with have described their sessions with me as feeling "supportive and safe". Others have found me to be both "knowledgeable and professional in my approach"
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Whether I am providing Integrative counselling to solo clients, sex therapy to single or coupled clients or relationship therapy to couples, it is always a collaborative journey, by working together you will be supported to stretch into a new and empowered life which meets your desires.
If you feel that I can offer you the support that you need or you have any questions at all: Email here .
or call me directly on 07478 541 231.
Psychosexual ( SEX ) Therapy
Is it time to engage fully in your sensual & sexual journey? Would you like to enrich your sexual energy and re-connect with your sensual/ sexual self? Have you wished to feel sexually liberated, empowered and be free from sexual shame and guilt?
The homeodynamic model of psychosexual / Sex therapy that I use is a holistic approach that works with the body, mind, and emotions in union.
Unpacking and reviewing your sexual beliefs, sexual values, and sexual journey will educate you and mould your future psychosexual development.
Home tasks in the form of reading materials and exercises will challenge your old scripts and help you to expand into a sexual and relational future filled with your desires.
Fulfilling sexual experiences can heighten self-esteem when the feel-good factor floods the neo-cortex with LOVE hormones. Is it time for you to develop an understanding of how shame can damage your sexual self-esteem? your sexual desire? and your arousal cycle?
I work ethically with sexual problematic behaviours and psychosexual difficulties whether they are non-organic, biological or emotional in presentation.
In recent years I have volunteered at kink / sacred sexuality festivals/ workshops supporting those who wish to explore and share their true sexual identity without fear of shame, guilt or persecution.
Clients present with a wide range of issues related to:
and many others.
Sexual abuse and sexual violence can have a deeply disturbing effect on relationships. Internalised shame and guilt can cast a debilitating shadow on self-esteem and can block the pleasure/arousal cycle.
Working with sexual abuse in women and men follows the same path...to coach and support the client with safety and stabilisation techniques. These techniques offer the client tools to access when they are outside of the therapeutic room.
Sexual abuse and childhood sexual abuse, in particular, may have already damaged many of your relationships and especially the relationship with your self.
Symptoms of disassociation, flashbacks, an anxiety of sexual contact, fear, sleep distortions, loss of diet, extreme sexual behaviours and many others may occur.
The onset of these symptoms may come out of the blue but will more than likely be triggered by an innocuous touch, smile, image, smell or feeling. When the symptoms begin the mind/ body/ emotions cannot differentiate between now and when the sexual abuse happened, this re-experiencing can feel devastating.
I have spent a year of my working career dedicated solely to understanding and working with the impact of sexual and physical trauma on survivors.
When counselling couples who present with one or either surviving sexual abuse, it is highly desirable to support BOTH parties, as the sexual abuse will have affected their relationship. It is helpful to the relationship to model to the non-abuse survivor the safety and stabilisation techniques to offer their partner support when they are in 'affect dis-regulation'.
Many clients have felt freedom by talking through and acknowledging their sexually abusive histories. By sensitively and considerately bringing these experiences out into the open we can process the feelings for a more fulfilling life and lifestyle that is free of triggering behaviours and flashbacks.
Please visit the page titled Psychosexual therapy to gain a broader understanding of my work in the field of Psychosexual and sex therapy.
My career in therapy began as an Integrative counsellor. Integrative counselling is a model of therapy that utilises many aspects of various models of counselling to aid clients during the process of emotional re-balancing, healing and intuitive mental well-being.
The initial sessions are concentrated on unpacking the distress that has brought you to counselling. Once all the unpacking has been completed we will focus on building your resources that will bring you a sense of confidence that you can transform into a brighter and more empowered future.
Here is a broad range of issues that I have worked well with over the years:
Couples (relationship) Counselling
Has your relation-ship sailed into stormy seas ? Can I help you to navigate towards a calmer shore?
Couples Counselling/ relationship therapy is solution based and helps to resolve difference by developing a new language of communication, enhancing empathy, mediating between wants and needs, setting goals with home tasks and defining the common ground between the estranged couple. We work towards re-building bridges and re- discovering the pizazz that has been lost in the relationship.
Together we can explore your concerns in a non-judgemental way and put in place resources to help you to heal and re-connect. This is a challenging process that will unearth some vulnerabilities and guide you towards your hopes for the future. The courage to grieve the past and welcome in a different relationship dynamic is needed...are you willing to transform?
Sessions are held weekly and will graduate to fortnightly.
My career and qualifications.
I hold Diplomas In Integrative counselling & a Post-grad Diploma in psychosexual therapy, and various certificated training in attachment, trauma, addictions, C.B.T, and level 1 in Theraplay and Enhanced adoption parenting (family support).
In 2010 I co-devised and facilitated a 2-day workshop focusing on the 'Recovery of The Inner child' held with Maeja Raicar author and developer of Child-centred attachment therapy (Ccat).
My psychosexual qualifications were achieved at the Centre for Psychosexual Health (CPH) www.psychosexualhealth.org.uk Link here The faculty is led by Cabby Laffy author of 'Love sex'. Psychosexual issues affect both single and coupled clients.
In 2015-2016 I worked with Mankind counselling service in Brighton attending to clients that have received sexual violations. Sexual trauma cannot be underestimated in our society, it affects the recipient's self-esteem and can hamper future relationships.
To understand better the mind, body and soul triad and to offer sensate-focused techniques that re-energise and re-sensualise relationships with the self and 'other' I trained in Holistic massage (level 3 ITEC), and hold certifications in Anatomy and Physiology. To compliment my knowledge I have undertaken further trainings working with sacred sexuality (Tantra and Taoism).
I have trained under the International school of Temple arts (ISTA), Mantak Chia ( author; Multi-orgasmic man, multi-orgasmic couple) and many other leading facilitators of energy/sexuality/spirituality. They have my gratitude for the amazing and transformative approaches to sensual and sexual healing.
My work is overseen by a professional CoSRT accredited supervisor and I uphold the professional boundaries and ethics as set out by the professional bodies to which I am a member (BACP & CoSRT).
Links to Associate Therapists.
Here is a list of colleagues from other areas of London who I value highly.
Thomas Sherry: Psychotherapist and Psychosexual and couples therapist. Thomas holds sessions from rooms in Central London EC2 (Shoreditch and Old Street) and South-west London SW4 (Clapham).
Eileen Duff: Accredited Integrative Counsellor and Psychosexual and couples psychotherapist. Eileen holds sessions in Maidstone and Central London EC4 ( Bank and Cannon Street).