Counselling, Sex therapy & Relationship therapy for Solo and Coupled clients
Turn around and turn away from where you've been and can no longer reside.
Turn around and turn away from what has ended.
Turn around and face what lies in front of you
Hello and welcome, my name is Jason Oddi
As a counsellor and Integrative psychosexual & relationship therapist, I lean on a wealth of professional expertise and therapy models that support clients that seek to bring a sense of balance back to their emotional and sexual lives.
I am a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP) & a General Member of the College of Sex and Relationship Therapists (CoSRT). I work in accordance with their guidelines for ethics and good practice.
Integrative counselling is a therapeutic model that fashions the many aspects of humanistic, cognitive and behavioural therapy to aid the client in their process from distress back to emotional wellness. Counselling provides the space for the client to expand on their current distress. Once the distress subsides, there is space for a cognitive and emotional shift towards a more empowered future.
Psychosexual (sex) therapy
Often we ignore nurturing our sexual and sensual selves. Re-connecting with our intimate selves, our partner, our sexuality and sexual energy have a multitude of scientifically qualified health benefits in reducing stress, slowing the ageing process, increasing blood flow which offsets health risks of coronaries or cancers, and developing healthier cell-structures. All these benefits contribute to opening up to love from a more balanced and grounded sense of self, able to love and be loved.
Expanded creativity and joy are common when we learn to remodel and integrate a healthier sexual paradigm into our sensual and sexual lives.
Sexual violations and abuses that can trigger the bodies trauma responses (shut down or become hyper-aroused) are common presentations that prevent the survivor from fully participating in their sexual energy/desires. Other common presentations that can be worked through with psychosexual therapy are erectile dysfunctions, rapid or retarded ejaculation, porn addiction/ misuse of erotic imagery, low or hypo libido, sexual identity concerns, ano dyspareunia, vaginismus and fear of sex.
All psychosexual conditions and symptoms can be worked through so that you can come to a place of understanding of how the mind helps or hinders the bodies needs and desires.
Previous and current clients come from sexually and gender diverse backgrounds ( LGBTQIA & non-binary). All clients are seen and treated as equal.
Couples Counselling & Marriage guidance
Change can feel so difficult when entrenched within a warring relationship. I mediate between couples to find common ground. We work towards re-building bridges and re-defining communications skills. I aid couples to hear each others wants and needs and help them to transition into a new relationship landscape. Re-building trust and intimacy, are cornerstones of couples counselling work.
Whether Psychosexual therapy, Couples counselling or solo counselling I offer resources that challenge all the senses and ask you to explore where your edges are and where you can push yourself forwards.
How I work
Booking a Session
The First Session
The first session is a consultation to talk through any questions that you may have about the therapeutic pathway and the way I work and the issues that are concerning you. This allows you to experience me as a therapist and to see if I am someone that you will feel comfortable talking to.
Frequency and Length of Sessions
We will establish a supportive framework for therapy. Weekly sessions are preferable and regulated to the same day and time (where possible). I offer some flexibility around work commitments though regularity of sessions may anchor you in what may feel like a very chaotic time for you.
The number of sessions will vary depending on your needs. We will have regular check-ins on how the therapy is progressing.
In a brief therapy model, the focus is with one specific issue which would generally take six to twelve sessions although this can be increased if required.
Open-ended therapy: this model works well with aiding clients in reducing medications like anti-depressants, working with depression and attachment based therapies that work with adoption, grief and childhood abandonment.
Many psychosexual and relational issues are linked to childhood sexual abuse. These symptoms can manifest as erectile difficulties, rapid or retarded ejaculation, sexual anorexia and vaginal pain and need a softer and slower approach. Initially, safety and stabilisation techniques have to be developed to work with this level of trauma.
Marriage guidance & couples counselling sessions begin weekly and move on to bi-weekly sessions when the focus shifts towards re-connecting, re-energising and re-romanticising the relationship. Fortnightly sessions allow couples the time to explore sensate and holistic-based home exercises that rebuild and re-ignite a desire for each. These are powerful techniques and cannot be introduced too early as trust has to be re-established between the couple.
Sessions are held in Mornington crescent, Central London, NW1 and Sandgate road, off of the fiveways, Brighton BN1.
Why Choose Me ?
Clients that I have worked with previously have described their sessions with me as supportive and safe. They have found me to be both knowledgeable and professional in my approach.
Meeting with a qualified professional provides a safe and non-judgmental space for you to talk about your concerns in confidence.
Whether I am providing counselling to solo clients, sex therapy to single or coupled clients or relationship therapy to couples, it is always a collaborative journey, together we shall usher in a new dawn.
If you feel that I can offer you the support that you need or you have any questions at all: Email here .
or call me directly on 07478 541 231.
Psychosexual ( SEX ) Therapy
Is it time to engage fully in your sexual journey? Would you like to enrich your sexual energy and re-connect with your sexual self? Have you wished to feel sexually liberated, empowered and be free from sexual shame and guilt?
Have sexual abuses, violations, grooming taken place and been hidden by fear of challenging a powerful person? Sexual abuse is a debilitating and heinous act. It is not OK!
The homeodynamic model of psychosexual / Sex therapy that I use is a holistic approach that works with the body, mind, and emotions in union.
Unpacking and reviewing your sexual beliefs, sexual values, and sexual journey will educate you and give space for your future psychosexual and intimate development. Home tasks in the form of reading materials and exercises will challenge your old scripts and help you to expand into a sexual and relational future filled with your desires.
Fulfilling sexual experiences can heighten our self-esteem and feel good factor by flooding our neo-cortex with LOVE hormones. Shame and the unconscious unresolved blocks in our mind can hinder that fulfilment. Is it time for you to develop an understanding of how shame can damage your sexual self-esteem? your sexual desire? and your arousal cycle?
I work ethically with sexual problematic behaviours and psychosexual difficulties whether they are non-organic, biological or emotional in presentation.
In recent years I have volunteered at kink / sacred sexuality festivals/ workshops supporting those who wish to explore and share their true sexual identity without fear of shame, guilt or persecution.
Clients present with a wide range of issues or needs related to:
Dyspareunia (painful vaginal intercourse)
Ano-dyspareunia (painful anal intercourse)
Erectile dysfunctions
Sexual education
Cybersexting
Sexting
Sexual addiction
Sexual Abuse
Childhood Sexual abuse (CSA)
Sexual violence
Sexual health
Gender identity
Sexual identity
Sexual self-esteem
Sexual fear and Anxiety
Sexual Anorexia
Sexual boundaries and Consent
Transphobia and Homophobia
Impotence
Porn addiction / erotic imagery misuse
Rapid ejaculation
Chemsex
Retarded ejaculation
Vaginismus
Fear of sex
Lack of sexual experience
Hypo or Hyperarousal
Intimacy and avoidance
Shame
and many others.
Sexual abuse and sexual violence can have a deeply disturbing effect on relationships. Internalised shame and guilt can cast a debilitating shadow on self-esteem and can block the pleasure/arousal cycle.
Working with sexual abuse in women and men follows the same path...to coach and support the client with safety and stabilisation techniques. These techniques offer the client tools to access when they are outside of the therapeutic room.
Sexual abuse and childhood sexual abuse, in particular, may have already damaged many of your relationships and especially the relationship with your self.
Symptoms of disassociation, flashbacks, an anxiety of sexual contact, fear, sleep distortions, loss of diet, extreme sexual behaviours and many others may occur.
The onset of these symptoms may come out of the blue but will more than likely be triggered by an innocuous touch, smile, image, smell or feeling. When the symptoms begin the mind/ body/ emotions cannot differentiate between now and when the sexual abuse happened, this re-experiencing can feel devastating.
I have spent a year of my working career dedicated solely to understanding and working with the impact of sexual and physical trauma on survivors.
When counselling couples who present with one or either surviving sexual abuse, it is highly desirable to support BOTH parties, as the sexual abuse will have affected their relationship. It is helpful to the relationship to model to the non-abuse survivor the safety and stabilisation techniques to offer their partner support when they are in 'affect dis-regulation'.
Many clients have felt freedom by talking through and acknowledging their sexually abusive histories. By sensitively and considerately bringing these experiences out into the open we can process the feelings for a more fulfilling life and lifestyle that is free of triggering behaviours and flashbacks.
Please visit the page titled Psychosexual therapy to gain a broader understanding of my work in the field of Psychosexual and sex therapy.
Integrative Counselling
~Albert Einstein
My career in therapy began as an Integrative counsellor. Integrative counselling is a model of therapy that utilises many aspects of various models of counselling to aid clients during the process of emotional re-balancing, healing and intuitive mental well-being.
The initial sessions are concentrated on unpacking the distress that has brought you to counselling. Once all the unpacking has been completed we will focus on building your resources that will bring you a sense of confidence that you can transform into a brighter and more empowered future.
Here is a broad range of issues that I have worked well with over the years:
Couples (relationship) Counselling
Has your relation-ship sailed into stormy seas ? Can I help you to navigate towards a calmer shore?
Couples Counselling/ relationship therapy is solution based and helps to resolve difference by developing a new language of communication, enhancing empathy, mediating between wants and needs, setting goals with home tasks and defining the common ground between the estranged couple. We work towards re-building bridges and re- discovering the pizazz that has been lost in the relationship.
Together we can explore your concerns in a non-judgemental way and put in place resources to help you to heal and re-connect. This is a challenging process that will unearth some vulnerabilities and guide you towards your hopes for the future. The courage to grieve the past and welcome in a different relationship dynamic is needed...are you willing to transform?
Sessions are held weekly and will graduate to fortnightly.
My career and qualifications.
For over 14 years I have provided Integrative counselling both privately and through the NHS and various charities.
I hold Diplomas In Integrative counselling & a Post-grad Diploma in psychosexual therapy, and various certificated training in attachment, C.B.T, and level 1 in Theraplay, and Enhanced adoption parenting (family support).
In 2010 I co-devised and facilitated a 2-day workshop focusing on the 'Recovery of The Inner child' held with Maeja Raicar author and developer of Child-centred attachment therapy (Ccat).
My psychosexual qualifications were achieved at the Centre for Psychosexual Health (CPH) www.psychosexualhealth.org.uk Link here The faculty is led by Cabby Laffy author of 'Love sex'. Psychosexual issues affect both single and coupled clients.
Since 2015 I have worked freelance for one day per week with Mankind counselling service in Brighton working with men that have been sexually abused. Sexual trauma cannot be underestimated in our society and the damaging effect it can have to the recipient's self-esteem and future relationships.
To understand better the mind, body and soul triad and to offer sensate-focused techniques that re-energise and re-sensualise relationships with the self and 'other' I trained in Holistic massage (level 3 ITEC), and hold certifications in Anatomy and Physiology. To compliment my knowledge I have undertaken further trainings working with sacred sexuality (Tantra and Taoism).
I have immense gratitude to have trained with the International school of Temple arts (ISTA), Mantak Chia ( author; Multi-orgasmic man, multi-orgasmic couple) and many other leading facilitators of energy/sexuality/spirituality.
My work is overseen by a professional CoSRT accredited supervisor and I uphold the professional boundaries and ethics as set out by the professional bodies to which I am a member (BACP & CoSRT).
Locations In Central Brighton & Central London
My counselling room is in 55A Grantham road, Brighton BN1 6EF Map here. The area is served by bus routes 26,79,46,50. There are pay and display parking bays close by @ £1 per hour though you can park directly outside the venue ( a note should be left on your dashboard)
This venue, unfortunately, has no access for wheelchair bound clients.
The venue is one mile (steep) walk from Preston park mainline train station.
My counselling room is 5 mins walk from Mornington Crescent and Camden Town tube stations ( Northern Line).
Nearby are koko's music venue , The jazz cafe, Camden Market, The British Library, Regents Park and London Zoo. Primrose Hill and Baker street are approximately 10 minutes walk.
Local business head offices include Google and youtube at kings cross, St martins college of art and design, Ted baker, French connection, Viacom and Asos at Greater London House.
There is on-street parking with metered access and I supply 1- or 2-hour parking permits on request cost £1.50 per hour). There is also metered access at £4.80 per hour.
This venue unfortunately, has no access for wheelchair bound clients.
Links to Associate Therapists.
below is a list of colleagues from other areas of London who work in the same field and I value highly.
Thomas Sherry: Psychotherapist and Psychosexual and couples therapist. Thomas holds sessions from rooms in Central London EC2 (Shoreditch and Old Street) and South-west London SW4 (Clapham).
http://www.thomassherry.co.uk/Link here
Eileen Duff: Accredited Integrative Counsellor and Psychosexual and couples psychotherapist. Eileen holds sessions in Maidstone and Central London EC4 ( Bank and Cannon Street).
http://www.counsellingtoday.co.uk/
