Relationship / Marriage counselling / support
As a marriage guidance counsellor & relationship therapist, my aim is to help you to see the dynamic that you are in and to offer you a safe space to explore your differences and why and how those difference have come about. This is challenging work but emotionally and financially cheaper than divorce, separation and starting again.
We will work together to develop new communications skills. Couples counselling offers new skills which become the building blocks of the transformation of your relationship from how it was to how you would want it to be. Re-romanticising and re-energising the relationship are goals for marriage counselling and are achievable if that is what you wish.
Communication, both verbal and through the body (kissing, touch, sex) are usually the first casualties when relationships are breaking down. We lose the desire to connect with our partners and begin to 'act out' our hurts through arguments, withdrawal and sometimes, infidelity. We learn to play the 'blame game' and see the other as the enemy. The 'silent' treatment, separation and sulkiness can take us back to our core childhood wounds.
Many couples have felt the devastation that comes with infidelity. Infidelity can bring up issues of trust, shame, and guilt. All can be worked with successfully IF you are willing, a level of honesty is needed to recreate trust and develop intimacy.
Creative play is really important as a tool in couples counselling and fundamental to valuing each other. During couples counselling sessions we will look at your routines and add some spice to your daily diet. A healthy home/sex/ creative play life keeps couples together.
Couples seek support for varied reasons including :
In some cases, couples attend counselling sessions to have a structured ending of the relationship. They wish to navigate the transition into solo and separate lifestyles and to develop a supportive co-parenting relationship with structured boundaries if children are involved. All is possible through communication and mediation.